- 1. STIMULATION AND DESIRE FOR ORDER
- Interest is the best motivation
- The child likes all rhythmical
- Interesting the kids think is correct, and uninteresting – wrong
- The interest of the child is in need of reinforcements
- Repetition – the best way to stimulate a child’s interest
- Children’s imagination and imagination to develop creative skills
- Whether sex differences in the upbringing of the child
- Telling the truth on the sex topic
- The daily routine develops time sense
- New TV programs help children to speak correctly
- 2. CHARACTER EDUCATION IN INFANCY
- Musical harmony is best absorbed in early childhood
- Learning to play the violin develops the ability to concentrate
- Playing the violin develops the traits of a leader
- Music education at an early age is reflected even in the appearance of the child
- Surround young children the best that you have
- Child – the great imitator
1. STIMULATION AND DESIRE FOR ORDER
<h3″>Interest is the best motivation
Two – and a three-year children often against their will every day lead by the hand on the violin lessons to Dr. Suzuki. They curiously look around, jump and frolic in a corridor and are not interested in violin. If parents try to force them to learn music, all such attempts end in tears and tantrums. Children begin to hate the violin. Their violent reaction is due to the fact that at this age they Wake the consciousness and sense of self that does not tolerate any violence.
Therefore in the beginning doctor Suzuki allows children to do whatever they want, but does not allow them close to the violin. Very soon the small pupil calms down and enjoyed watching how other kids play. Within two to three months the child remembers the whole play, played by his companion, and now he also wants to try. The teacher waits to the impatience of the child reached its climax, and only then gives him the first lesson. The preparation period is different for each child. The longest – 6 months.
The main principle of the method of Dr. Suzuki was to arouse interest, and this is the best motivation. In his view, coercion is the worst way of learning. If the child has an interest in the violin, he is making great strides in a short time, sometimes surpassing all expectations of the teacher. To cause the child’s interest in the subject of teaching is the best pedagogical method. Therefore, the main task of parents, if they want to teach some child, – to arouse interest. For example, instead of teaching the child to believe, it is better to interest of its figures. Instead of teaching him to write, awaken his interest in the process of writing. In other words, task of parents to prepare your child for learning.
To cause this interest, it is important to create the necessary conditions. For example, to the child had a desire to paint around it should be enough pencils and paper. It is useless to expect to have the baby appeared the desire to do anything, if the conditions are not created. Many adults who are indifferent to music or painting, I can confirm that the reason for their dislike of coercion in early childhood or the lack of conditions for the emergence of interest.
The child likes all rhythmical
In America there is a very popular album with the English lesson.
The text in verse about the Fox is accompanied by such rhythmic music that even adults, like me, start to dance. And the words themselves are remembered rhythmic music. Memorization comes naturally to the music, without special training or rote learning. Unfortunately, Japan has not developed the technique of learning the language of music. Success in early language learning in the United States was made possible thanks to the fact that the child is trying to interest, not force.
Most of us negative respond to the word to learn. We are so negatively oriented, as the study in our consciousness is strongly associated with violence against the will. Meanwhile, studies should be combined with pleasure, and then we will make great progress. So, the son of one of the monk easily learned all the sutras that each morning singing his father. Sutra chant to the sound of the Gong, so the boy was not difficult to remember them. But if he just were forced to learn them by heart, it would be for him a very difficult task.
Interesting the kids think is correct, and uninteresting – wrong
You will abuse a child torn Wallpaper? How do you explain to him that it’s wrong? For you good or bad depends on your personal experience, from the generally accepted moral norms. But the little child has no experience, he did not rely on that to decide good or bad to tear the Wallpaper. If it be scolded, he may not will to do this anymore, to avoid unpleasant consequences. At the same time, this episode may kill in this nascent creativity.
Child psychologist, Seishiro Aoki specifically investigated the formation of such concepts in a child, as good and bad, and came to the conclusion that good for the child is that interesting and exciting. For example, when the abducted children were asked why they gave him to strangers, despite all the warnings, they explained: it was interesting. The kidnappers, apparently, know very well the psychology of the child. They know how to intrigue and know how to attract. A little child, believing that all that interesting, and it is good, follows the kidnapper’s nothing wrong with not knowing.
This connection of concepts is good and pleasantly is characteristic only for the early age. Gradually, the child gains experience, and now he believes that good is what you praise. If he performs the task, and praises him for it, he thinks he did the right thing, okay. Conversely, if it is blamed or punished, so he did a bad thing. The discomfort associated with the concept bad.
For example, you constantly reproach the child for poor play the violin or for insufficiently fluent reading. The child begins to perceive the learning process as something delivered only suffering and accordingly as something bad. Many of us since childhood hate music or English lessons only because they are associated with unpleasant sensations.
So instead of to impose to the child their understanding of what is good and what is bad, is much more effective it would be to provide him with pleasant emotions, when he does something well, and unpleasant when it is bad.
Your child’s ability will develop as efficiently as successfully you will use methods of praise and blame.
The interest of the child is in need of reinforcements
Of course, the interest is the best stimulator in education of the child. But there is one problem: the child’s interest to something one quickly disappears, because his curiosity is boundless. If to himself, his attention will jump from one subject to another. Of course, this is typical of his age, and attempts violently to keep his attention on one thing can have the opposite effect. The child’s curiosity is essential to the knowledge of the world and absolutely necessary for his mental and intellectual development. Still, I would not recommend giving a child complete freedom. For it is equally dangerous to focus on one subject (an extreme form of this condition called autism) and to throw away due to the inability to focus oneither for a long time. As a result, he can grow a lightweight person.
Among the many interesting things in the surrounding world the child finds Hobbies, where he doesn’t need anyone. But usually he still needed help from an adult. Often on how quickly an adult will notice and will react to arise child’s interest, whether saved or not, will evolve into something serious or will quickly fade away. Therefore it is very important not to miss it. We do not know what the child’s interests may develop in ability, but in any case he should have a chance to develop them.
Repetition – the best way to stimulate a child’s interest
If an adult forced to listen to the same story several times a day, he is deadly bored. I myself am a patient man and even two times not able to listen to the same thing. But as a child I forced my parents to tell me stories many times and had not tired. Repetition is very important for those ties that are formed in the brain of a child. Repetition is desirable not only because it is the child does not get bored, but main way because infancy does not know boredom, this is the best time for the formation of correct circuits in the brain of the child, defining the whole of his subsequent intellectual life. Three-month-old can remember complex musical work if it is to lose him a few times in a row. The infant’s ability to assimilate information is huge.
The repetition of this period has another important function. Remembering the tales and songs with numerous repetition, the child begins to prefer one story or the song, continuing to ask their endless questions related to its content. He remembers his favorite tale by heart, and her material to some pores satisfies their curiosity about the world.
Curiosity creates interest, which in turn brings up the will, so necessary for growing up. The will to action does not appear out of nowhere.
The will is stimulated by the interest and in turn encourages people to further development. The baby listens to the tale, he later shows interest in pictures, then to letters, and finally wants to learn to read.
I knew some parents who gave their child to boarding school for a year and two months, as did a lot of work. When the child returned home, he was far behind in development. However, at the age of 4 or 5 years he suddenly erupted interest in music, especially playing violin and piano. The bewildered parents couldn’t understand where this sudden interest? They understood that in a boarding school the child not getting enough intellectual stimulation, although baby lost plate with a lullaby by Mozart and Schubert.
Lack of intellectual stimulation, with one side, and the repetition of the same musical works, on the other, slowed mental development, but increased his susceptibility to music. This story is very revealing and suggests serious reflections about the uncertainty of various influences on child development in early childhood.
Children’s imagination and imagination to develop creative skills
Many parents would like to raise a child creative. But I fear that the modern system of nurturing creativity from an early age is not enough effective. What is creativity?
It is difficult to give a precise definition, but in the simplest sense is a free flight of imagination, aggravated intuition, which can lead to inventions and open. On this highest level of creativity, intelligence, erudition and imagination are merged together. No doubt the fact that the success of creativity are rooted in subjective emotional perception and experiences of early childhood. In other words, childhood fantasies, adults seem so far away from real life, are actually the seeds of creativity.
For example, you give a child a toy, say, some animal. He can identify with that animal, write a story about him based on some real experience or tales that he heard. Or, for example, any picture can inflame his imagination to such an extent that adults simply can not. They say that Leonardo da Vinci as a child, saw witches flying from the ceiling, and all the monsters, moving among the stains and cracks on the ceiling.
Adult draws kettle, and the child sees in the picture the fish’s open mouth. Adult can reproach the child: don’t be silly, this is kettle. Such a response would be a mistake, and it is tantamount to the destruction of the Bud, ready to bloom.
Develop a child’s intuition (sixth sense)
We know that humans have five senses: sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch. But it also has a sixth sense – intuition. The sixth sense many women, for example, unmistakably learn about her husband’s infidelity. But seriously, intuition is an important condition for any significant achievements.
All great inventors relied on their intuition, despite their enormous knowledge and experience. Intuition covers all five senses and thus is the most ancient and basic sense. Intuition is also called animal instinct that goes beyond logic and common sense.
I have already said that the child under three years is very close to the animal, keeping in mind that he is not yet able to think logically and rely on your instincts. It is very important to remember this and to encourage the development of its instincts, and in any case not to suppress them, instilling in him the skills and trying to apply to it logic and arguments of reason. Furthermore, since intuition is a combination of all five senses, the development of intuition sharpens all the senses.
Whether sex differences in the upbringing of the child
When parents dream who would be their child, they take into account his gender: He is a politician or a scientist?, I hope she’ll be beautiful and clever!.
Why do we relate differently to the newborn boy or girl? In fact, up to three years in physical form there is a big difference between the sexes. Sometimes we even superficially can’t tell them apart. In some languages a small child and is used in the neuter. Science also believes that sex differences begin to show after three years. Renowned child psychologist van Ornstein have conducted a series of studies, which concluded that only after three years of the child’s behavior begins to reflect the gender, and at the age of four or five years of age, children clearly show their gender in games. Thus, up to three years only the form of the genital organs indicates the difference between the sexes.
Despite this, the parents raise the child taking into account his gender. For example, a newborn baby boy to dress in blue and girls in pink. Your taste of the baby yet, and what’s wrong if a boy wore pink clothes, and the girl would play with a toy gun? Do I have to take the boy a doll if he showed interest in her? Why constantly remind him that he’s a boy? And why a girl can’t be interested in wrestling? The German poet Rilke was raised as a girl, even dressed in women’s clothes. But it has not grown effeminate. Instead of worrying, as if the girl has not grown mannish and effeminate boy, it would be better for parents to be aware of the damage they cause to the psyche of the child, imposing their ideas about gender.
Telling the truth on the sex topic
Sexual education is actively discussed last time, in all media. The main question is when to start sex education in elementary school or in the middle. I find this question inappropriate. Sexual life is the sphere of instincts, why do we have to hide from the truth up to a certain age and then suddenly start talking about it.
Although small, the child feels being neuter, in two or three years, he begins to ask questions relating to sexual problems. First, he discovers, for example, during bathing, that mom and dad arranged differently. Naturally, he asks questions. If another child is born in the family, he asked how a brother or sister was born.
On such questions the child should receive a clear answer. It is not necessary to laugh the matter off or lie to him. Embarrassment and innuendo the parents will make this topic forbidden fruit and only inflame his curiosity will give rise to unnecessary imagination.
Intuition two or three year old child tells him that he is telling the truth. It can not to let on, but his curiosity only will be warmed by the strange behavior of the parents.
The argument that the child is supposedly too young to know the truth about sexuality, is unjust in this case. Sexual topics should be discussed quietly, in friendly tone, that from the beginning he belonged naturally to this issue. Those adults who consider sex a forbidden topic, just received the wrong education in childhood.
Improper diet produces bad habits in the next life
Nutrition problems arise sooner or later in every family. Women’s magazines and manuals for the education of children are full of articles on topic How to convince a child to eat something he doesn’t like?
But isn’t it better to wonder how to avoid the causes leading to the problems than to think about how to fix what is already formed.
Incorrect habits are very difficult to eradicate. If a child is forced to eat against his wishes, he may start vomiting, or develop an aversion to going life.
I am sure that in addition to the Allergy to certain types of food, problem with feeding result from malnutrition in infancy. If you offer your child the same food from day to day, its tastes will not develop and it will refuse any new food. The tastes of children, as well as other feelings, are formed almost entirely between the company and three. You should not feed it only what is helpful like a dog or a horse. Your child will tell you: It’s delicious! or Perfectly cooked! . However, it is very important that he enjoyed the food, and the food was as varied as possible. I would give the child the best to develop the right attitude toward food, and let parents if must eats something that is not very good. Great attention should be paid to the different spices and additives to the food, to know more of taste sensations.
The daily routine develops time sense
Our time, unlike my childhood, this time of television. For the modern child a life without television is unthinkable. Therefore, parents inevitably have to watch programs that are watching their child, in order not to lose contact with him.
Television plays the role of hours in a child’s life, because he has no sense of time. Each program is associated with any event – dad goes to work, dad comes home from work, time to go to sleep, etc.
The regularity of television programs generates a sense of time. It is generally believed that the small child lives only the today and there are no concepts of past and future. Approximately two and a half years, when he speaks, he begins to realize what is before after, yesterday and tomorrow. Other words, until the child begins to understand speech and speak, he has no sense of time. However, practice shows that the baby still understands what the present, the future and the past, thanks to repeated television programs. Strict regularity television programs rather, than events of family life, such as Breakfast, lunch, the arrival of the father from work. TV can do a good job in organizing the child’s daily routine. You need to follow a strict regime is not only to instill in him good manners, but also to develop his sense of time. Some mothers teach children to tell the time in hours, before the kids learn to count. The child does not understand the meaning of the arrows, so it is useless to show him the hands and say: Eight o’clock, time to go to sleep. The child goes to sleep because eight hours, but because it was dark, and because he wants to sleep. A regular routine allows to develop a child’s abstract sense of time. This schedule replaces the child watch.
New TV programs help children to speak correctly
One mom told me that her two year old son learning the right to speak, listening to the radio and television programs.
You’ll probably say that it makes no sense to allow the child to listen to what he does not understand. But to him it is not necessary to understand everything, as long as he developed a habit to memorize the words with the correct accents, intonation and pronunciation.
Illiterate speech and bad pronunciation products of the environment in which the child grows. Environment has on our minds a lasting impression against our will, and then it does not erase. If the adult has some features of speech, he almost always passes them to the child who then give them to your child. Thus passed down from generation to generation all the irregularities and distortions in language.
If correct it will firmly enter the consciousness of the child, he will be able subsequently to avoid the influence of jargon, which abound in the media, and if you will use them, without prejudice to their language.
2. CHARACTER EDUCATION IN INFANCY
Musical harmony is best absorbed in early childhood
The films are often shown as a family or group of friends keen on joint singing, organize their leisure time. Simple villagers, uneducated, happy to sing the chorus, and their voices are amazingly melodious and orderly. Listening to this performance, a child learns to read and write music not with individual notes, and once with whole chords. It helps him to understand the difference between sounds when compared. Child easier to understand something that has a certain structure. Combination of sounds to help him to feel intuitively the relationship between sounds and individual qualities of each sound.
Perfect hearing is impossible for adults but possible for a little child, if you give him a proper musical education.
Learning to play the violin develops the ability to concentrate
In 1970 fair in Osaka hosted a concert of young violinists in honour of UN Day. It started at 11am, but at 8am the majority of children, including three and four year old, was already standing on the square, despite the cold, rehearsing and tuning their violins. I was amazed at the dedication of the children.
Of course, the child should remain a child, alive and curious. But the liveliness and restlessness is not the same thing. The last quality is highly desirable in an adult. Someone who is not able to focus long on one thing, wasting a lot of time and energy to each assignment.
The one who had developed a high degree of concentration of attention, has huge advantages. It is believed that music students are disciplined and well mannered. You may think that the parents hold these children in severity, and this can make them boring and serious from childhood. Nothing of the sort! They are well behaved not because the lessons are parents, but because they are capable of a high degree concentration attention without any special effort. Training is given to them easily and they have time to do more other children at the same time. Thus, they have more free time.
All parents whose children attended the violin class of Dr. Suzuki claimed that their children never suffered, preparing for exams, that they are without voltage well studied, although spent a lot of time, playing with the kids in the yard. This the question revealed a completely new type of intellectual: the cheerful, clever and not at all like the common stereotype of the pale skinny glasses.
Known saying of Confucius in harmony with the music. Have in mind that music soothes the soul and clears the complexion. Music classes require regular exercise, which in turn raise the ability to concentrate. Thus, the music also contributes to the proper formation of character.
Playing the violin develops the traits of a leader
The ability to lead other people considered to be exclusively an adult trait, and therefore this quality is brought up at a later age. In fact, the qualities of a leader start to develop much sooner than most people think. It is noticed that in any group of children somebody starts to play the role of leader. In his book Children’s psychology Dr. Yamashita said that a potential leader always stays focused on their thoughts and actions, even if you are around lots of other children. In the game or other the classroom he’s always trying to create something new and the first is taken as the embodiment of their ideas.
These same qualities are brought up and practising the violin. It is therefore not surprising that the students of Dr. Suzuki is a cheerful, energetic children with a penchant for leadership, and not pale geniuses. These children will eventually become leaders in society, which always needs people.
Many students of Dr. Suzuki took the leading positions in the most renowned orchestras in the world.
Music education at an early age is reflected even in the appearance of the child
It is believed that a person’s appearance is entirely dependent on heredity. And yet I’m sure you’ve noticed how it changes the appearance of the person depending on what is going on in his life. Of course, change dramatically the shape of the eye or the nose can only be through plastic surgery, but the appearance and overall demeanor very much change depending on life circumstances. Especially clearly these changes can be observed in children. For example, the appearance of a child who listens to music or takes music lessons are definitely changing under the influence of these activities. We conducted an experiment in the Association’s early development with a group of babies who at the beginning when mother first brought them together, nothing from each other do not differ. Then randomly selected from this group of children and gave them a listen a Little night music by Mozart. Four months later, these children differed significantly from the others: they were alive and their eyes gleaming brighter.
Famous Japanese music critic Maruo wrote me in a letter: the Sounds have a huge impact on the person. Attentive mother probably noticed how different children from the time of the second world war. This happened for three reasons:
1) increased cultural level of their mothers;
2) improved nutrition;
3) increased the impact sounds to children.
Maruo sure that the music changes the facial expression. He had noticed this interesting phenomenon repeatedly.
Therefore, it is immersion of a person in music, in the belief that music makes people beautiful. He believes that monthly child is not enough to listen it, he will definitely hear and music that sounds on the radio, television, tape recordings.
Learning poems memory
The snow is melting on a tree branch where a pigeon cooing.
Look, a little kitty gently stepping on the fallen autumn leaves.
Creeps and laughs the child, he turned two this morning.
This is a traditional Japanese poem – a haiku written by Issa Kobani, a poet of the late middle ages.
In our experimental school of nurturing talent such haiku are taught memory training. Haiku is very suited for this purpose because they are short, rhythmic – they are easy to remember. In addition, they meet the requirements that apply to children’s poetry: poems for learning have to raise a child noble sentiments, and they should be beautiful, perfect and deserve to be remembered for a lifetime. And at the same time, they have to like a child.
First, children learn one poem by Issa every day. They talk about the content of the poem, the next day they read it by heart and get a job to learn new things. Thus, a child trains memory, but it gets fun. If the first time the child needs to hear the poem ten times before he remembers it, the next time it takes only three to four reps, and then one time. I was told that the child learns some 170 poems of Issa in the year.
Repetition is the mother of learning. It axiom. If the child has forgotten the line, let them repeat the poem from beginning to end. Those who have trained their memory so can remember the whole story, after four or five readings.
Some readers with a question will refer to this method of memory training. I, too, initially believed that the haiku of Issa is not very suitable for children. However, the goal of these classes is not just to memorize, but also to develop an aesthetic feeling of the child, his mental abilities and creative potential.
Brain the child is able to retain in memory from 100 to 200 short poems.
But the memory can rust if it is not used. The more it is used the better it functions and develops.
The child’s ability to remember needs to train until he finds pleasure in repetition.
Surround young children the best that you have
In the old days, a seller of antiquities was surrounded by his pupil during the first six months of training, only the most valuable and true works of art to having seen to them, he could always distinguish a genuine antique from a fake.
This training method is well suited to child rearing. If his brain that is still like a blank sheet of paper, is fixed true art, it will remain there for life. His brain will refuse to accept a counterfeit when he become an adult and parents will not be able to influence his tastes.
If his brain imprint fake, it will be insensitive to the original art. Of course, not always easy to distinguish the true from the false. Shaping aesthetic needs of their child, parents need to trust your taste and be guided by the beautiful works of art that have been appreciated in all ages. It is not necessary to give the child the only books with primitive pictures, allegedly because he did not understand the more complex language of painting. If the parents appreciate Matisse and Picasso, they definitely can show their picture to their child. If they get pleasure from the music of Beethoven and Mozart, and let the child listen to them as often as possible.
When the brain produces the stereotype of true art, it will be the basis for the evaluation of works of art in later life.
Today, mothers in all countries of the world blamed their children for something that they are interested in nothing except pop music. But what else can you expect from teenagers, if from early childhood, they usually hear only this music, which is firmly imprinted in their brain. Of course, they are no longer able to perceive more complex music. When certain cliches formed in the mind, too late to teach children to something else.
The power of music and art, these two types of art shaping the aesthetic taste depends on early education. If there is a solid Foundation, it will facilitate the child’s further life. Help parents must to be timely.
Child – the great imitator
When I was three years old, I liked to mimic the stutter of one of our neighbors. My mom scolded me: Stop it! Stuttering is contagious.
The author of many books on early childhood K. M. Jones recommends led child who is afraid of dogs, where children play with their dogs. Imitating these children, he gets rid of his fear.
I heard from one mother that her child was very fussy until she started to put him at the table with the other children of the same age, who eagerly ate any food. Sometimes the child with poor appetite suddenly begins to eat well after a visit to the house where the children eat with enviable appetite. The mother may think that her child is not like her cooking, and in fact, it just imitates other children.
Children begin to imitate in the first year of life, and the second and third year they imitate consciously, and not only children their own age, but older. No wonder they say that children mirror adults. Therefore, in the presence of a child, pay attention to their behavior, especially when in children the imitative age. Three-year-olds can imitate all gestures, manner of speech, gait, etc.
This propensity to imitation has an effect on a child’s emotional state. The child may become nervous, playing with the other nervous kid, or suddenly start to be afraid of planes if his friend is afraid of them.
Imitating, the child is not just APE – it acts real art. So don’t scold him and don’t treat it too seriously, not to kill in the Bud the creative personality, which of course is not included in your intentions.
Success in one the case gives confidence in other matters
As we have argued, the lessons of playing the violin or a foreign language need not to grow out of the child genius, but mainly to contribute to its overall intellectual development. Healthier for a child to try their hand at a variety of sessions, with possibly a wider range of items than to concentrate on one thing.